Saturday, February 23, 2013

It's A Wonderful Lie

Everybody remembers from The Matrix where Neo first finds out that his entire world is a lie upheld by those who don't want to see. Everyone who saw Dances with Wolves or Avatar knows when the hero discovers he's been fighting on the wrong side. I assure you, the realization is far more chilling in real life.

I made such a discovery just today.

As anyone who reads this is sure to know, I'm not a fan of modern-day feminism. However, I've always stood up for the protection of women against abuse. Now, let me clarify that such a position is not going to change. I am still vehemently against the abuse and exploitation of women and I stand staunchly against the Limbaughs and Hannitys of the world and their campaign to turn women into a slave class.

That said, my eyes have been opened to one of the few legitimate conspiracies on this Earth. This is a conspiracy perpetrated not by a nebulous evil organization such as the Illuminati or Freemasons; rather, it is a road to hell paved with good intentions and whose upkeep is provided by tacit agreement to the status quo of popular opinion.

I present you with a video I stumbled upon entirely by accident but which definitely caught my attention and - to run the risk of sounding like a stoner - opened my eyes, man:

This analysis of institutionalized misandry is amazing and shocks you into a realization of how men are portrayed in the Western world. Think of the last time you saw a news story about a tragedy: did they single out women and children as victims and ignore what the men went through? Did the news single out a man or group of men as the perpetrator(s)? And even when the entire group of victims was male, did the newscasters ever describe the victims with any male terms? Or was it just gender-neutral monikers?

Have you ever wondered why roughly 90% of the homeless are men? Why, in a society supposedly so dominated by men, are they so swept under the carpet and left to literally die in the streets?

In Western society, men don't exist unless they're doing something evil or hateful. Now, in America of course we have the Republican movement but it's not like they're actually doing anything to help men. It's just more abuse toward women and advocacy of programs that don't actually help men. When was the last time you saw a Republican arguing for prostate cancer awareness or for male victims of domestic violence to be taken seriously? Just as in everything else Republicans are so convinced of male superiority that they can't tolerate acknowledging that men may be imperiled. Of course, it helps that the majority of men so victimized aren't in the Conservatives' holy upper-upper-class.

Now, speaking of domestic violence, there's another incredible eye-opener regarding misandry, American misandry in particular:

Male victimization from domestic violence is never reported in the published sections of any sponsored study. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) is happy to publish blatant lies stating that 85% of domestic violence victims are women. However, this is a vicious lie. The NCADV's own studies reported that, while 1.3 million women are victims of domestic violence each year, nearly 900,000 men are also victims. That means that, out of 2.2 million annual victims, women barely constitute half of the domestic violence victims. Far lower than the 85% the NCADV argues, isn't it?

Oh, but the NCADV never advertises the fact that their own studies turned up over 40% of the total domestic violence victims having penes. You have to dig through their full reports in order to reveal this lie.

In fact, domestic violence has skewed about even in man-on-woman and woman-on-man attacks since about 1984, when there were already more than twenty peer-reviewed and certified studies noting the violence as being roughly 50/50.

It gets even worse, though: In 2010 the CDC did a massive and intensive study across the country in the form of the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey. This survey came back with staggering results, which of course were never publicized: According to this survey, men constitute at least 53% of domestic violence victims! This doesn't even include male rape victims, who weren't tallied AT ALL. But nowhere in the NIPSVS' results will you find this fact except buried deep in the full report. Again, the CDC only publishes the female results of the survey.

The true statistics aren't published in the executive summary. They aren't even in the letters released to the US Department of Health and Human Services. The male victims are made not to exist. In fact, yet again in another heinous lie, the basic NIPSVS summary page states that women are vastly and disproportionately the victims of sexual violence, stalking and domestic violence. The survey's findings on victims of violence and shelter clients are equally disheartening: 53% of physical violence victims are men, and while women are higher on the "severe physical violence" list, that list includes rape which, again, was not tallied for men, meaning that the male victim percentage in that area most likely also skews even if not higher.

The worst part, however, is that 99.3% of domestic violence shelter clients are women. Less than 1% of the total abuse victims who use shelters have a Y chromosome. This is just unbelievable.

Actually, I lied. The worst part is what happens to men who actually build up enough courage to fight against the social stigma against male domestic violence victims and actually try to find some help:

A Douglas/Hines survey in 2011 titled Men's Helpseeking Experience found horrible statistics. When men sought aid for domestic abuse, barely a quarter were referred to a helpful program, and that was only with a domestic violence hotline or an online resource possibly completely unrelated to domestic violence agencies.
More horrible still is that men who went directly to the most lauded DV agencies were told, "We only help women." More than half the responses from any conventional method were this. And when it rains, it pours. About a fifth of the men seeking help were outright MOCKED AND INSULTED for having been the victims of domestic abuse.
And then, a good portion of men were referred to "batterer's programs," implying or outright telling the help-seeker that he was the batterer and not the victim at all.

My new sign-off has become, "Goodnight, and stay safe." I'm not just ending it with that this time. I usually call for action but leave it to my readers exactly what kind of action to take. This time I'm telling you what to do: call or email your Senators and Representatives and tell them to do something about this. Men are being erased from the world's sight and are being erased just as steadily by violence and tragedy that always goes unacknowledged. No one, man or woman or alien from the planet Glorboks, deserves to suffer abuse and disenfranchisement. This must change.

So goodnight, and take action.

1 comment:

  1. I plan on sharing this on twitter and possibly on my fanpage on Facebook Ryan. I have always known this to be a problem but I didn't realize the media has deliberately gone out of their way to try and NOT mention the gender if it's a man. I have heard SOME news stories where they have mentioned the gender of the Man, but it has been rare.

    I feel bad for the men who can't get legitimate help when they need it. I want to give these men hugs, because they are suffering in silence and YES - something should be done about it. They deserve people who take them seriously and are willing to help them. I know I would if I could.